A question I am often asked is ‘Isn’t Self Love Selfish?’ And I get it; when you are used to putting yourself last, self love can feel selfish. It’s the opposite of what you have been taught. It feels uncomfortable to take up space because you’ve learnt that your needs don’t matter or aren’t a priority. You are used to pandering to a dominant personality who was likely unpredictable and inconsistent with giving love and affection and learning to assert yourself brings up feelings of deep discomfort, ultimately stemming from a subconscious belief that you are not worthy.

Think about it - you’re a helpless infant, you are unable to walk or talk. Your only means of verbal communication is to cry or gurgle or laugh. You are in your cot alone and feel afraid and vulnerable, so you being to cry. Your parent believes that you are trying to manipulate them into responding so they ignore you. Does this make a crying infant learn a lesson? Yes, but not the lesson you’re hoping they’ll learn. Instead they learn that they are alone in the world, they are helpless and unsupported.

You are sowing the seeds of narcissism without even knowing it.

Imagine bathing in a pure vibration of love and allowing it to travel throughout your entire body, unlocking pockets of resistance, unworthiness, anxiety and fear.  Releasing negative emotions and replacing them with the warmth , support and deep inner peace associated with unconditional love.  Reiki is a warm hug for the soul.  

These 3 different types of relationship exist to help us evolve along our soul’s journey. It can be difficult to decipher which kind of relationship you are experiencing as despite their differences, they are all types of soul connection. The common shared theme is that each kind of connection exists as a soul contract, agreed upon before you incarnated in this life time.

So how do you tell the difference?

I first met my inner child five years ago, during a healing session with a psychic. She transported me to a time when I was about 3 years old, feeling very afraid and trying to hide in my mother’s skirts so as not to get in trouble. As a parent myself that image really touched me…

In a world that celebrates the idea of romantic, intimate relationships, it's important to reflect on the foundation upon which our own romantic bonds are built. In reality, many modern relationships find their roots in safety before love. But what exactly does this mean?

I found myself saying yes to my daughter the other day, when I actually meant no. So I said yes with a huff and a sigh. Naturally she felt guilty, but surely this was my intention, right? To make her feel bad for asserting her ‘inconvenient needs’ so that she’d change her mind. (And I wouldn’t be the bad guy for saying no.)