Loving Yourself So Hard, You Never Enter Another Toxic Relationship
Not long after my marriage ended I met a man that I felt I had known before. The kind of connection that feels like it must mean something more. I called him the love of my life. And three years later, that same beautiful (yet toxic) relationship ended, leaving me single and heartbroken, for the second time.
That was the relationship that changed the course of my life.
That was the relationship that stopped me from pursuing men who were not capable of a truly loving, intimate partnership.
That was the relationship where I stopped blaming my relationship failures on the emotionally immature counterpart and started to take responsibility.
If I wanted a successful relationship then I was the one that had to change.
Why Self Love isn’t Selfish
I am often asked ‘Isn’t Self Love Selfish?’ And I get it; when you are used to putting yourself last, self love can feel selfish. It’s the opposite of what you have been taught. It feels uncomfortable to take up space because you’ve learnt that your needs don’t matter or aren’t a priority.
DISCLAIMER
The perspectives and insights shared on this blog reflect my personal views and holistic approach to attachment trauma and inner-child healing. They are offered for informational and self-exploration purposes only and are not intended to replace professional medical, mental health, legal, or therapeutic advice or diagnosis. If you are experiencing emotional distress, mental health concerns, or a medical condition, please consult a qualified healthcare provider, therapist, or mental health professional before applying any suggestions found here.