Loving Yourself So Hard, You Never Enter Another Toxic Relationship
Not long after my marriage ended I met a man that I felt I had known before. The kind of connection that feels like it must mean something more. I called him the love of my life. And three years later, that same beautiful (yet toxic) relationship ended, leaving me single and heartbroken, for the second time.
That was the relationship that changed the course of my life.
That was the relationship that stopped me from pursuing men who were not capable of a truly loving, intimate partnership.
That was the relationship where I stopped blaming my relationship failures on the emotionally immature counterpart and started to take responsibility.
If I wanted a successful relationship then I was the one that had to change.
I Asked for True Love — But I Wasn’t Ready to Receive It
After my marriage ended I asked to be shown real love. I asked for a love that wouldn’t end in divorce or separation, one that was the real deal. A love where I was seen and accepted for who I am and not through the eyes of limitation or wounding as had been my previous experience of relationships. I wanted a partner who actually wanted to be in relationship with ME! Someone who wasn’t in a relationship to satisfy their own needs to feel loved — to fill their own void. I wanted someone who knew how to connect intimately and with true vulnerability.
I really didn’t know what I was asking for!
In walked my twin soul — the perfect reflection of me at a soul level….
What are Healthy Relationships (and How do I Find One)?
Whilst we all covet the ideal romantic relationship, few of us know how to go about finding or creating one. And sadly, many modern relationships find their roots in safety before love. But what exactly does this mean and how can we go about finding a healthy relationship?
DISCLAIMER
The perspectives and insights shared on this blog reflect my personal views and holistic approach to attachment trauma and inner-child healing. They are offered for informational and self-exploration purposes only and are not intended to replace professional medical, mental health, legal, or therapeutic advice or diagnosis. If you are experiencing emotional distress, mental health concerns, or a medical condition, please consult a qualified healthcare provider, therapist, or mental health professional before applying any suggestions found here.